well you know how there's like a million different apps to share everything that I share here.

s o c i a l  m e d i a  f r e n z y.

 

watching jinnyboytv's unfold part (2) and realised how did five years of long distance survived? practically i flew in and out of australia 5 times a year on average. every stay is about 4-5 weeks long. in between, I'm busy catching up my lectures, assignments, tutorials and preparing for exams that i barely have time to meet my friends (other than midnight supper, proper friday fine-dine and birthday parties). i never unpack my luggage because by the time i'm free i'm flying home again. i calculated on average i earn around 20,000 to 50,000 enrich miles per year. 

anyways back to the video. honestly, i mean now that everything's old news. i guess i'll just be really frank about some of the many questions i get over the years.

do you like being in a long distance relationship (LDR)? Honestly yes and no. I can't decide. the hardest thing to get pass is the first three days after every trip back to melbourne. Yes. because i can focus on myself and only myself. do everything i like. all the time in the world for myself. my recent bangkok trip reminded me of that, and i really love it. just being by myself, no other ppl's errands, just mine. anytime, anywhere by myself. Well No, because who likes being alone. i really don't like to be alone but i need a time out every now and then. When you sleep all by yourself on your bed, it's just you and the sheets and tonnes of other lifeless things. even after 6 years, i'd say there's more NO than Yes.

what is it like being in a LDR? first up. learn to psycho yourself. no matter how anyone out there tells you how ideal their LDR is, trust me - no psycho, you could find yourself acting like a crazy woman at times. i think 90% of the time i psycho-ed myself that 'this is just a phase, i'm looking forward to x number of saturdays and i'll be home', and there's times where you go 'who the fuck is this girl in the picture?' and then you stare at the picture a million times and go, ok it's fine, close the fucking window and read your book (cuz if you're gonna bring it up then what's it like when you're out with your guy friends?) (and of course, not forgetting arguing) or sometimes when you both argue and you go like 'fuck it, i'm just gonna fucking hang up (i've got nothing to lose, (YA RIGHT, your mind perhaps))' so really, it's all about talking to yourself into zen mode. they say TRUST is the key thing. no doubt, but its not the only thing. trust me, LDR tests your patience, your determination, your open-mindedness, state of mind, temper and many more. 

what is the most difficult part of LDR? waiting. for anything and everything. waiting for time to pass. waiting for him to call. waiting for him to get home. waiting to get his texts. waiting for his replies. waiting for skype time. waiting for the flights. waiting with only one purpose - to talk/meet/get in touch with the other one. well, best case, worst case and normal case scenarios - best case is bonus airtime. he comes home early and all he wants to do is not watch tv, meet his friends but skype with you cuz he's been missing you all day long. he's bored and he doesnt wanna do anything else other than talking to you cuz you've been missing him like mad. normal case scenarios is that you are able to contact him anytime, he picks up phone, talks to you for a while and you're assured and you hang up. both turn up on time for skype time, talk like all you did the entire day was missing each other. Worst case scenario is you can't get him and you're waiting for him to get home, he doesn't reply you at 3am in the morning cuz he's drinking with you-dont-know-who, or he say he can't pick up your calls now cuz its not very nice. or maybe he say he is going home soon at 2am but till 5am you still can't get him. or he skips skype once, twice and.... . i sound like a control freak? well put yourself in my shoes. if your relationship is 24/7 based on just skype and calls, well every god damn chance to talk/skype is like the only thing you care about. the above is vice versa. 

heard anything back home that upsets you? plenty. that i can't count. but what matters? is how honest you are. i once cried 9 days straight thinking im losing my mind and wtf am i doing. i should just hook up and do smtg crazy - everyone else in uni is doing that! 

were you interested in going out on a date with another guy? well i cant answer this for you. everyone's different. i swear i did not date anyone because I WAS HARD TO CATCH. CATCH meaning even my best friends find it difficult to 'book' dinners with me. why? because obviously i was busy studying, catching up, packing, cleaning before i fly back home again. so firstly, barely anyone knows me. BECAUSE I DON'T really know many people due to limited outings (my standard answer is - oh nooo, im back home that time!! shit :(  ). secondly, there was barely enough time get 'HOT' with anyone. TIME WAS LIKE THE ONLY THING THAT WAS TOO LITTLE when im enjoying company of my best friends and TOO MUCH when im struggling to kill time.

would you go for another LDR? really. fate chooses you. you don't stand a chance choosing what comes around. unfortunately, i think i'm about to go through another one. but i guess the ultimate question is IF you can choose. NO. i think i'm getting a little too old for that.

my tips of killing time? plan a trip thoroughly. focus on a hobby whether it is exploring places to eat, running, singing, anything! meet up with your friends do super fun things that you'll never do (esp in uni) when you're young or simply just because being adult means you 'shouldn't' do it. 

 

with my thai colleague, Mai during my month-half long work placement in bangkok 

 

Eu-Jin and myself at butterworth for an ex-colleagues wedding, Kean Hu and his wife, Alice.

 

His cheeky smiles :) at Alice's place.

 

everyday in bangkok, I made myself explore new food joints to occupy my time and also making full use of my time being alone :)

 

spent one saturday at four seasons for high tea and also enjoying my new past-time favourite - reading. 

 

fashion in bangkok is so disposable that buying anything trendy seems to be something you should worry the least. you'd fuss more about which colour at what price (even if it was 10 baht difference - and if you think about it, it's only a dollar plus diff in ringgit).

  

attended this fairytale wedding just last month - Ronald and Yi Leng. Probably by far the most romantic wedding ever :) here with Jian Win, one of my closest friend within the Pack of Seven. 

 

together with YinYen, another PO7, my foodie explorer back in melbourne. 

 

Eu-Jin and myself taking a camshot :) at the wedding ceremony. 

 

Four Season's afternoon tea at the The Lobby. 

 

Chuanlove and Yi Leng at the wedding.

sharing more on instagram you can follow me @mssasin 

xoxox,

with love

 

"bunny i know it's goin to be tough next year, but we will be there for each other. I love you so much"

 

Hellub! Having the xanga iPhone app got me hooked on blogging all over again (as if). With so many social networking app on my phone, you'll have times where you just go "why is there only 4 of this, I'm darn bored" and other times when you go "omg stop the bloody notifications why do we even need to maintain ONE?!" okay so I guess, everyone's the same.. NOTHING'S PERFECT!

Have been getting quite some pm asking where do I get my qipao and my evening dress custom-made. Well here you go! It's by Elaine from Red Lantern!

They've recently moved from Berjaya Times Square to Sunway Giza (right above Caring Pharmacy), nearer to us (pheww)!!

Just in case you're looking to get your qipao or wedding dress or evening gown custom made!

Red Lantern
Block B-10-1, Giza Mall, Dataran Sunway, Kota Damansara, 47810 Petaling Jaya
Tel: 03-6148 9009

One of my first few with Elaine! Man I feel like I've aged! All the youth sucked away!